He likes games for girls
He prepares with pleasure in a toy kitchen and dresses dolls? There is nothing to worry about, the child psychotherapist Elena Morozova assures. The games intended for the opposite sex allow children to grow free and harmonious people.
Is it necessary to be surprised when the boy likes the games traditionally prescribed for girls, and vice versa? Does this tendency indicate possible homosexuality in the future? “Children under 3-4 years old spontaneously play the same way,” explains the children’s psychotherapist Elena Morozova. – And then the girls begin to prefer their games, the boys – their own, imitating either paternal or maternal behavior. Adults are in many respects to such a separation – they buy them the appropriate toys, rejoice when their son (daughter) chooses a game with the right “sexual orientation”. It happens, however, that boys are also willing to lay down bears and bunnies to sleep. Or they play the family in the absence of peers, taking turns becoming “dad” or “mom”. And why persuade them not to do this? “Most of the adults forgot how great the power of imagination in the child,” Elena Morozova regrets. – and mistakenly attribute to such games a predictive character: The game does not indicate a future sexual orientation and forms it even less. On the contrary, maybe a wonderful, responsible father or – before – a gentle and caring older brother will grow out of a boy enthusiastic about dolls.
Involved in different game situations, especially symbolic, the child searches and creates his own personality, in which there are both female and male components. Instead of ridicuating the boy playing with a doll, you should ask yourself: “Why is it bothering me?”Does the behavior of the Son (daughter) awakens in us in doubt about his own sexual orientation? Often, the child involuntarily serves to strengthen the sexual self -esteem of parents – helping his father feel more courageous and strong, and mother – feminine.
It is worth worrying when boys are 7-8 years old and not just playing dolls, but reincarnate in girls: they
imitate their behavior, dress in dresses. Such fantasies are an occasion to turn to an endocrinologist, and then a psychologist who will help to understand what the child lives and what aspirations he wants, but is afraid to realize.
“Correct games with the right toys” Stefani Auerbach
An American teacher, a specialist in the field of children’s toys (it is called: a doctor of the one from Toy – “toy”), in his bestseller tells about games for each age and helps parents determine the real needs of the child.(Storri, 2008).
Elena Morozova, employee of the department of child psychiatry and medical psychology RMAPO.